Is Your Relationship Doomed?
Have you ever wondered if there is a way to predict how a relationship will end? Well, you can definitely predict if a relationship is heading towards a breakup. There is a variety of warning signs that couples often ignore, even though they shouldn’t.
The signs I have written bellow don’t always mean your relationship is doomed – at least not if they’re the only problem you’re facing. However, if you are experiencing a lot of the signs or some of them but at high levels, then you should consider setting up an appointment with a couples therapist to get back on the right track.
- Lack of communication
Communication is essential to a healthy relationship, but couples often forget that good communication doesn’t just come out of nowhere. As with everything else in a relationship, communication is hard work. Don’t expect your relationship to stand the test of time if you and your partner don’t have healthy communication habits. Lack of communication is a major red flag that a relationship is doomed.
- You live completely separate lives
Having your own space while in a relationship is very important, but leading two separate lives in completely different. If you no longer find the time or will to do anything together, it’s time for a chat.
- Compromising is impossible
Compromise is great in small doses and is often necessary to maintain a healthy relationship. If you don’t agree with your partner 100% of the time, you have probably run into some decision making that resulted in a compromise. If it’s impossible for you to reach a healthy compromise, you need to ask yourself why. Is one of you too stubborn? Is one of you expecting too much from the other person?
- You don’t trust each other
Trust is a fundamental part of every relationship and it is impossible to have an emotional connection with someone you don’t trust. If you are going through your partner’s phone, constantly wondering what they’re actually doing, and asking about their whereabouts it’s time to sit down and think about your relationship. There is no point in staying with a person who you can’t trust or doesn’t trust you.
- You don’t have fun together
Has your relationship become very boring? Whether you don’t want to do anything fun together or you can’t agree on what to do, you should consider it a red flag. The last thing your relationship should feel like is boring. Do you prefer to spend time with your friends than with your partner?
- You constantly fight about the same things
Consider fighting about the same things over and over a big red flag. This ties into having communication problems, because repeating arguments means you can’t resolve problems and we all know how important communication is.
- Lack of support
Getting support from your partner is a necessity. Your partner should always be there for you in the best way they can. They should support you not only when you’re facing problems, but also when it comes to your interests, passions, and hobbies.
- You don’t share core values
Although there are some core values some people are comfortable compromising on, you shouldn’t assume your partner is as well. Do you know if your core values are aligned with your partner’s?
- Lack of respect
You and your partner absolutely have to respect each other if you want your relationship to last. You should always respect your partner and treat them as an individual with their own thoughts and feelings. Treat others the same way you want to be treated.
- The past is still an issue
We have all done things we’re not proud of in the past, but in a relationship, the present and future should be far more important than the past. There’s only so much you can do to reassure your partner and at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how many times you tell your partner you have changed, they will continue thinking what they want.
Can you relate to any of the above-written problems? If you can, don’t worry! All the problems I have written about can be solved. Many of my clients find that through couples therapy they are able to resolve their problems so they can get back on track to a satisfying and long-lasting relationship.
Are you worried your relationship may be doomed? Let’s talk about it! I help couples achieve a joyful, intimate, and trusting relationship by guiding both partners to work towards an amazing relationship.